This article is going to show you how to stay a prisoner of your negative emotions by NOT forgiving your spouse of adultery and getting remarried. I've personally met some very bitter people who have remarried. On the outside they seem to have it all, another spouse who seems to love them, beautiful kids, a nice home, and a good paying job, but on the inside they are holding in unforgiveness and vengeful feelings towards the spouse who committed adultery. Looks and appearances can be deceiving.
The most efficient way to remain bitter and not forgive your spouse is to keep going to church and keep being misinformed. I have never yet met one person who goes to church who is not confused about the "exception clause" scripture. Unfortunately this mass confusion keeps everyone in the dark. Married people are being deceived about the "exception clause"! When married people divorce their spouse because of adultery it means they have not forgiven.
Jesus is NOT saying it was OK for "one flesh marriages" to get a divorce when one spouse commits adultery. We have to put the scripture into proper perspective. Biblical study involves many questions, such as, 'who was it that Jesus was talking to', 'why was He saying it', and 'what were the circumstances', and so on and so on?
Regarding the exception clause in Matthew, Jesus was talking to the Jewish community about betrothed couples who had not yet consummated the marriage into the "one flesh" of marriage. If you are not reading the King's James Version of the bible you will be totally mislead about this scripture, as well as many others.
He saith unto them, "Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication , and shall marry another, committeth adultery, and whoso marrieth her, which is put away doth commit adultery. (KJV Matthew 19: 8-9)
The exception clause is not talking about two married people but two betrothed people. Betrothal was VERY important to the Jewish community during these times, and for some it still is. Betrothal is somewhat like engagement of marriage, but with much more moral observance at its core, which is why; when a betrothed person committed the sexual sin of "fornication" it was an exception for the other one to get out of the betrothal.
There are two areas that we must take into consideration when translating the exception clause. The first is that fornication "is having sex between two unmarried people. Had they actually been married, Jesus would have used the term" adultery ". If they were really married rather than betrothed, it would have read, " except it be for adultery ". And the second is betrothed couples were called husband and wife, even Mary and Joseph, being betrothed were called husband and wife and they had not yet consummated the marriage.
So when we take both of these areas into account it helps us to understand this scripture in its true context. Now you will not have to be deceived any longer. To sum it up Matthew 19: 8-9 is not speaking about "one flesh marriages" but speaking about Jewish betrothed couples, who had not yet consummated their relationship into the "one flesh" of marriage.